How is the best way to deal with this? My self-confident has never been that good because of my school life, (And other things) and last year I did have some confident thanks to some friends but due to some problems thanks to one of them being funny with me because we like the same person, I feel like I've lost my self-confident, apart from on Tuesdays when I had out with some other friends. So what do you lot suggest?
What is it that you want to get from others? What do you need this confidence for? Finding out what you want and the best way to seek it is the first step to gaining confidence in achieving it.
*confidence. Sorry, felt the urge to. I totally share that problem of low self-confidence. What helps is having friends really express their interest in you and what you do, like someone saying "Hey, you did that? That's pretty cool!" But that of course relies on having your friends do something... Personally, I try to keep my mind on personal, realistic goals. Set goals for yourself, like drawing a nice picture, writing lyrics, making a cool video, cooking something tasty, etc. Knowing you've accomplished something can really improve the picture you have of yourself.
On the contrary, those things could raise your self-esteem, but self-esteem and confidence are tricky things. When you express your hopes to others and get them saying "good luck" to you, you are less likely to achieve your goal and will put less effort into completing it. I agree with the latter half entirely, but making your intentions public will increase your confidence while decreasing your efforts. The end result will not be as satisfying. Feel free to share your results after completing a goal, though. Just be wary of feeling accomplished beforehand...
