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I've honestly been like this my whole life. It's this inferiority complex inherent within humans. I once read a quote from someone about procrastination. Basically "you stall because you would rather be late/not do something at all than try it and not have it come out perfect". That being said, we're all human. I hate to be cliché but no pain, no gain. You couldn't say something was good without some standard of "bad" to compare it to. What you're describing is the mindset of a lot of cynical people; they fear messing up and being hurt, so they avoid close relationships all together and justify it by saying that everyone is "out to get them". I'm in a relationship right now and it's definitely not easy. We've had our ups and downs and recently almost broke up twice. But we've gotten through it and now I appreciate him more than ever; the bad stuff seems ridiculously insignificant now.

Be careful, yes. Keep your guard up. But don't let the guard be so strong that it keeps you from opening the gates and seeing what's outside.

Interesting point, but doesn't that beg the question? On what grounds must the designer already be crafted? And if the designer already exists and created the design, why would they not be aware of all that exists. It's like when people say the universe created itself, i.e. self-caused. To be self caused you have to exist before the effect. I'd have to go with design in this case, unless I'm missing something important.

1. People blaming society for everything. "Media tells women not to dress/act/look like this, this and this." "Society tells women/thinks it's not okay not to get x jobs" "Society puts pressure on x and x groups". Statistics that show certain groups basically give themselves **** because social expectations. We apparently have a lot, a lot of people who can't think for themselves just because "society told us not to".

2. This country is going backwards, liberal style. Back in the day the conservatives ran societal thought processes and the minorities were non-Whites, homosexuals, etc. Now after fighting for all those rights they think it's okay to bash/hate the original "majority". I'm black and I'm honestly tired of black people thinking that they're the ONLY ethnicity that gets oppressed. The whole country is "black people, white people". Why only them? Hell, why is there still not enough Asian representation in the media? Are we still going to act like the entire Eastern hemisphere is nothing but China? If you're homosexual, have your rights. But media, don't throw it in my face all day and force the agenda on me. When I was younger all the shows I watched contained tons of groups and no one said ****, they were just there. Now it goes, "OOOH A BLACK GAY MAN OMG LOOK YOU GUYS RIGHTS"

3. On the note of homosexuality, I'm a Christian. As I said, give them their rights. I don't completely support it but there is literally no point in denying them. Jesus and the apostles didn't go around picketing the government all day. He never even went and preached to the military or officials. They went and helped the sick and the poor. Jesus sat and ate with murderers and whores. Yet modern Christians seem to forget all this because they don't come within two inches of a Bible.

4. Double standards in the modern liberal tolerance movement, particularly under the label of "tolerance". No one is allowed to disagree with anyone anymore. If a black man says, 'I hate whites" then that's cool. Pat on the back for him. But if a white man even speaks he's an ass. Seriously, when did it become blasphemy to be born as a straight white man. I will deal with your views, but don't talk **** about mine.

5. Final Fantasy XII is totally underrated.

6. Can we completely legalize marijuana already? Seriously did we learn nothing from prohibition?

7. People nowadays are glorifying negativity. I can't go anywhere on tumblr without seeing at least one post that's like "I'm dying inside." "I'm not okay." "My life is crumbling" yada yada yada. Stop. This is coming from someone who has dealt with depression and anxiety for years, since I was 11. It is not cool. It is not edgy. It warrants serious medical attention and therapy.

8. Respect is earned, not deserved. That goes for you too elders. Especially you. Just because you're old doesn't mean you've suddenly become omniscient. On another note, why do they need to say, "It wasn't like that in my day." Society is different when you were young. Half of you lived during the Korean war, through the Vietnamese and Cold Wars, and many of them don't know **** about any of that because there were only 3 news channels if that.

9. The 21983 different terms we have now for different genders/sexualities. You can identify however you want, but you are either objectively male or objectively female. Come at me bro. And all these terms like sapiosexual, demisexual, pansexual are really interesting but really confusing. For example, sapiosexual is being attracted to intelligence; it's the deciding factor in sexual attraction. Straight/heterosexual is just being attracted to the opposite sex. Does that mean I can't be a heterosapiosexual? If I'm straight, do I not look at these things? Apparently people are rarely just heterosexual or homosexual but that begs the question. Why all the technical terms? Instead of it being a dating preference its an entire different sexuality.

10. "I don't get taking pride in something you have no control over. Black Pride, Gay Pride, National Pride. I'm not proud to be Irish, just glad. Damn glad." - George Carlin

This. This is important. It's not even just the double standards that bother me, it's the fact that when someone's like "I'm just not attracted to x" people go apeshit. "That's so shallow!" "Personality matters too!" Yes, of course personality matters - it can make a Tom Hiddleston turn into a Kanye West real quick, so to speak - but you have to look at people first. If you focus on only looks, then yeah that's a problem. But don't act like looks have absolutely NO bearing in your initial decision, that's just a flat denial of human nature to me. That being said, double standards are ****ed up but such is life.

That is a really good point; I'm a person that is big on keeping things mutual. For me, it makes no difference whether people are affectionate in my presence simply because that's their business (although I'm not a big fan of being excessive to the point where it's just inappropriate). Of course, for other people it may be different.

That being said, is there really a need for my friend to constantly comment along the lines of "We would never be like that or do that"? Because this is the thing that has been bothering me. If both of us have our preferences, then sure. But don't make constant comparisons, that just comes off as condescending.

[="Marushi, post: 4222864, member: 39072"]I know how you feel. I actually know someone a lot like that. She isn't exactly proud, like you say, just... she perceives everyone around her as if they are the same as her. She doesn't consciously think so; if you were to ask her "is everyone the same?" she'd be like "What? No! Of course not, duh." But when it comes down to it, she doesn't quite understand when someone is different.

For example, she's not a selfish person. The stuff she has, she shares with everybody. You don't even have to ask; she encourages you that if she's not around and you need something, you can just use her stuff as long as you put it back when you're done. But because of this, she doesn't understand what it means to respect other people's property. Now, me, I'm selfish. If someone wants to borrow something of mine, I almost always say no, even if I have no other excuse than "I don't want you to." And if I find out that someone used something of mine without permission, I get irritated beyond belief, sometimes even mad.

But she doesn't think it's a big deal, and if she wants to borrow something from me, she just does it. And if I confront her about it later, she acts like I'm being unreasonable because she didn't damage it, she returned it, and (if she like, borrows a jacket or something) she usually washes it before giving it back. Erego, if it bothers me that she took something without permission, it must be my problem, and she just doesn't get that I feel differently and can't just turn that off. And that's how she acts with every aspect of her life. In fact, although she's not a confrontational person, that disconnect is usually what starts every argument she finds herself in. She does something that she thinks is just fine, and if someone confronts her about it, she feels like they're in the wrong.[/QUOTE]

That's exactly what I mean. I know my friend will say that she does understand this concept, but she really doesn't seem to comprehend something that's outside of this realm of experience. They expect everyone else to be the way they are.

I guess just a sort of example or explanation from anyone really. If you've ever known someone that has not exactly a "high and mighty" attitude, but can be just condescending in general. Honestly a yes or no is fine too, sometimes I just need to rant.

Must. Find. Motivation. To. Do. Stuff.