Advice Please!

I need advice! My "good buddy" was my best friend but now she's a total jerk. My other 2 buddies told me she does that so she can climb the social ladder to become from geek to popular.She treats me and my other 2 buddies like garbage and is rising up the social ladder by being a jerk. She gets everything because the adults don't know how she treats kids. I've been trying to tell her I don't want to be friends, but I'm too nervous and everytime I try to be serious with her I start smiling and laughing for some reason. I need help I can't go through the summer being like this.She want's to know my email. For some reason I can't say no to people. Sorry if this sounds really stupid to you I just need advice.

 

Kill her and hide the body *shifty eyes*

 

If she's basically dumped YOU to climb the social ladder, I say you dump her back.

 

Well you're gonna have to get yourself a backbone and tell her that you don't want to be friends. I don't see any other way out.

 

Well she isn't a true friend if she does that to you. I would just ignore her and go on with my life. Don't let it hold you back.

 

Well... she seems to be treating you like a piece of crap so dump her. Give her the cold shoulder maybe she'll realize what she's doing.

Or you could just try and tell her to snap out of it. Cause the only thing harder than getting in the "clique," (*cough* sterotype *cough*) is staying in.

 

Hmm.... I dunno, try sayin' something like how she's not the girl she used to be, and that you were only friends with the other girl rather than who she's become..

If it manages to get to her, then good.. If not, then you can dump her or whatever... Hope that was at least the slightest bit helpful, I think it's better than what others were saying, but I'm not sure on your opinion...

 

Tell her to shove it. If that doesnt work, tell her to frack off.
I cannot stand 'fairweather' friends. Ive had plenty, and it never pays off:(
And if you cant express how you feel because youre nervous, then that is just a further indicator that you guys arent friends. You should be able to confide in friends, not be afraid of how they'll react to things.

 

Popularity isn't important.

Neither is this 'social ladder' of yours.

Quit Wasting your life.

 

Ah.Ive been in this situation before.
Being honest here.
That "friend"of yours dumped you to be one of the "popular group".
Simple,act like you really dont care,let her dump you.
You ll see,one day she´ll regret to lose a great friend like you and come back crawling.
Then,it will be your desicion to forgive her or not.

 

Well there's four choices. Make her jealous and she'll come back or bully her or you can tell her to frak off and put a virus on her computer, make sure to block her email once you've done it. Or you could just tell how you feel about it.

 

okay, eerily enough, I have a girl in my grade who is almost EXACTLY like the friend you are talking about. only perhaps my "problem friend" is quite possibly the devil in disguise. o_O but I digress.

I used to be friends with this girl, and then I realized that she was a complete and total jerk and pretty spoiled on top of that. she treated me and my other friends like dirt and tried to control everything and anything we did. it started driving me completely insane and now I can't stand her. my advice is this: if you don't want to be friends with them anymore, don't feel like you have to stay friends with them to be nice or something. it's whatever YOU want to do that's important. don't go right up to them and blatantly announce that you feel your friendship should be severed---just let them down, slowly. gradually start talking to them less or doing less things with them. this is what I've been doing with my problem and it's been working fine with no conflict involved. I can't speak for everyone's situations, of course, but that is my advice. take it if you like the idea, and if not, just do whatever feels right to you. ^_^ good luck.

 

Rumor

I've been telling her in class (art and PE. are the free classes I tell her)
I tell her to change and she does for 10 minutes and then she goes back to being the same way she was. I keep thinking I have until Wednesday to tell her off. All of this advice is great. The only thing is I don't know how to tell everyone to beware of my "friend" so they won't share the heartbreak. I can rally the whole school even the people who aren't friends with me into an angry rampage with just a couple words of something happening in the community. The only thing is finding the right words to say. Most of the time the truth turns into rumors and the rumors turn into total tall tales. I want everyone to know about her being a jerk not her ripping wings off of butterflies.(That was an actual rumor)

 

i totally agree. a real friend wouldnt do that! you could always try talking to her, and even though it seems hard, once you start talking it probably wont be that bad! still, if she keeps treating you that way, always remember you have your two other true friends:)

 

Tottaly true

 

If she's being that terrible to you and other people, it may be time to find a new friend. NO ONE deserves to be treated badly, especailly by a "friend".

 

if i were you i would go up to her and tell her how what shes doing makes you feel and say that unless she wises up you wont be her friend anymore. i wouldnt do any rumor spreading or nastyness because thats just sinking to their level and wont achieve anything. if you are nervous, say over msn or walk away after saying it.

trust me, i cant say no to people either, i am nice to everyone, even people i dont particularly like. this means that they think i am their friend when i actually cant stand being near them, but i dont have the heart to tell them that i dont like them.

 

I went to another person's party and guess who was there. My "friend". We went to the go carts and the guy said we the tallest people go on first. She was way shorter than me cause I was the 2nd tallest person at the party. She got to go first because she didn't tell the guy I was taller than her. Then when it was my turn to on after standing in the hot sun she goes off to get soda. I got angry at her but she ran away while I was blowing up at her. After we went on the bumper boats she acted like nothing happened! My other 3 friends were very sad that she just left them. I told them she always does that. She has gone from jerk to heartless. She cares only for her hapiness and no one elses. I have untill Wednesday to tell her before school gets out! Tomorrow is best. So I need some advice on how to talk to her. Oh yeah and thanks for all of you who gave me advice it really helped. Except for the killing and hiding the body part. But thanks for trying.:)

 

Just stop being friends with her, love. There's no need to be friends with someone like that.
If she were really a good friend, she wouldn't have done that. ​

 

When you're dealing with one-minute friends like this, practice saying it in your head. Don't be rude about it but be very calm and assertive. Tell her nicely that she's been treating you inconsideratly and that you would like to end the friendship on a positive note. Tell her that you really wanted to be friends but you saw it wasn't working out and that you'd like to break it off without an argument or a fight.
You'll feel much better instead of telling her off and giving her the finger.