How come when you try to do things right...

It doesn't matter?

 

It does matter.

 

Sometimes, but then its like..."am I really doing anything right?"
It's like a doubtful feeling.

 

/thread .

 

Sometimes it does, sometimes it really doesn't.

 

Right or wrong is merely a perspective :b

 

Mike, this isn't Twitter.

 

It's not something I would post on Twitter.
I have three twitter's which is only about updates.

 

It matters a little. But trying and actually doing are two different things.

 

I'm actually talking about everything in general.
I'll just say it. It's partially here at KHV. I'm tired of being afraid to do what I want or express what I like.

No matter what I do, especially in spam zone, it never goes right.
I have to spend my life in fear, because of every little thing I say. If your not confident enough, that's not accepted.

Making a thread like this is just being an attention whore. I hear it all the time. For once, I want to interact with members and built some sort of thing on these forums, but I feel I'm only here to post news.

And then I offer something productive to share with the community like the fandub production and its like it doesn't matter. I'm killing myself making them and its like what ever now. It can just go...

What ever, I had my little rant. I just want people to understand where I'm come from. If people heard others, it would make things easier for all of us.

 

Well ok, I am going to be completely honest with you.

You really don't help yourself you know? You don't interact with the forum, you make theads expecting to be the focus you know?

Join in on threads, post around and be a part of it, I know you don't do it on purpose, but you seem to always try to direct the attention towards yourself. I mean that in that you never really join in in things, you make threads and stuff expecting everyone to go to you.

Lack of confidence isn't frowned upon or whatever, that is actually bullshit, I speak that from both my experiences and the experiences of others I have seen.

Plus, you really need to stop letting yourself get upset over the tiniest thing; you're a nice lad but we are just as scared to say something to you in case you blow up and think we're attacking you.

Its a two way thing love.

Basically, get involved and stop stressing so much.

 

It has to be me. I'm just doing something wrong.
I guess I'm just stressing out, but then again a lot of people can relate, but man my social life sucks. If I just had some more friends, things would be better. Having just a best friend, isn't working.

I'm scared of life and I come on here to work and do what I like, because this is what I do. I like to help and entertain people, but it really doesn't feel like enough. I admit, I'm negative. I have low confidence and I don't like myself, but that because I feel I'm not accepted anywhere.

If I don't like my looks, it's because no one is dating me. I swear, till this day I don't know why I have a main picture of me on my profile of KHV. I told RvR, I pray to god that people just hear me out and work something out with me. But, I just don't know anymore...

 

It is nearly 2am on a Saturday night and I can see several UK members online, pretty sure we aren't showing much of a social life right now either :b but you know having a social life isn't the be all and end all of the world. You can still enjoy life, and if you want more friends then go make more friends. Complaining you have no friends won't do anything except make you more miserable.

Don't be so ungrateful about your best friend either, don't take them for granted. It is better than being alone isn't it?

Question: do you do this because you WANT to? Or because you feel like you HAVE to? If you want to be doing more then DO more. It is unreasonable to expect everyone to stand around giving applause and cheering you know? Again, if you want things to change, you have to help that change.

You don't realise that by being so negative you are holding yourself back. People won't want to associate with someone who is always so down and negative, lighten up you know? We aren't all going to bite, well not unless you're into that ;B

You really don't have any reason at all to have low confidence.

If you don't want it there then don't have it there. Simple as. I don't think many people have confidence in their looks to be honest; we're all in the same boat there.

What you aren't getting is that we do try to hear you out, but we can only meet you halfway you know? You need to be prepared to work on it too.

 

So, how can I meet everyone halfway?

 

As both me and Fearless have said. Interact more, become more involved. For the love of *insert deity of your choice* stop letting yourself get worked up so easily; you're an easy target for insults because pretty much everyone knows you'll take it to heart. Loosen up, Lighten up and Toughen up <3

Change doesn't happen over night, but if you're prepared to be patient and put the effort in then it will happen.

 

If people know I'm an easy target and make things a big deal, wouldn't it be a good idea to not start? I mean some people just don't have strength and heart to take it.

I know I make big deal out of things that shouldn't be big, which is what I do need to work on.

Well see...
That's good. xD

 

It wouldn't be a good idea to start what? You've lost me now.

You yourself said you need to work on not making such a big deal out of things, that is what makes you the easy target. Some actual interaction would benefit you.

 

Alright, well to start off, I feel you dude, in the aspect of feeling ignored sometimes and the lack of interest in how much effort gets put into the fandub also annoys me too. but CtR and Fearless have got points too. Make yourself more approachable in the community. People only see you as "TEH GRAND AUTHORITAH" and so are either going to not reply to you or be over negative to compensate (I spent years avoiding replying to mods out of fear xD) Get yourself out there posting here there and everywhere so everyone knows that you're approachable. And dude, any and all friends are special and should be cherished no matter how many you have. So, to sum it all up. Keep your chin up, show everyone the real Mike and keep being awesome! And if anyone kicks off Stitch'll go 626 on those fools :P

 

Because people are asses. especially on the internet. If they want to say something hurtful, they'll say it. If they know it'll hurt you more, they'll be more inclined to say it. And the worst part is, if they know what'll hurt you (insulting your fandub for example, which I actually like), they'll use it. When it comes to insults, things are rarely off limits. It's hard to toughen your skin up, believe me, I know, but not impossible. If someone says something that bugs you, let it bug you. But don't think too much about it. Eventually, it'll stop bugging you and you can move on.

It's like with pain tolerance. If something is hurting you and you know it won't kill you, it's easier to tolerate it. If someone insults your project, don't let it destroy it. Simple as that.


And no matter how bad things can get, look for the silver lining.
Someone doesn't like you fandub? Tough **** for them. Other people do like it.
I saw your car on the PyP thread. I drive a 1991 minivan with no radio, torn seats, no AC, no insurance, a broken belt, and a missing mirror. I can't take it to school because it won't handle the drive here. Don't take that car for granted. Same for your best friend. You don't know what you have until it's gone. You can try and make new friends, but don't lose the one you already have.

Also, I saw your picture. You're not a bad looking guy. I'm sure I'm not the only one who thinks so (although I may be the only guy who does). Know you're not ugly. Use that to build your confidence.


And don't place so much emphasis on relationships. 1. You're young. 2. They're overrated. 3. They're not everything. 4. You can have more fun without them ; ) 5. Don't think of it as being single. Think of it as being available.

 

When I said start, I meant that if people know I take things to heart, than why would they start trouble when they know I do?

Thanks, but that's just it. I really think I'm fun and interative, but I need a push. I just want to feel like I'm wanted a bit. If not, than I pull myself down and feel "they don't want me around, so I'll just post the news".

Thanks Stitch. xD
But yea, you see the comments in the production. It makes me want to drop it. I really don't care anymore.