I dont know what to do

Yeah, i make alot of these.
but this time, i really dont know what to do.

Ok so, my and Bf and i will have been going out for three weeks on friday, and alot of people in school are asking me 'are you giving him his whole?' or 'has he pumped you yet?'but we havent done anything apart from kiss.
but a few weeks back, my friend told me she'd done it with her Bf and now i cant help but wounder if i should....

Now, My Bf says we'll do it when im ready, i spoke to him tonight about this and said that maybe, if we get a place, where my parents,or his arent in, i refuse to do it outside, i find that animal like.

so he says, he will try and find a place, but heres the thing...the day after we started dating, my lady problems came, they went away for a day, then came back, that was two weeks ago, and im scared that if i do do it, say this weekend, i will end up pregnant, protection or no protection, i dont think he will mind if i say my problem hasnt cleared up, but in a way i want to do it.

Little help on weither or not i should go for it please.
and if this seems childish or anything, its not meant to sound like that.​

 

How the hell old are you?

If you are still in HS then I am going to say don't be a ******* idiot. Just because other's are doing it or not doing it doesn't mean that you have to follow in their footsteps. Think for yourself for god's sake.

 

Okay, exactly how old are you? I mean, just becaue your friend did it, and your bf wants it, doesn't make it right in anyway. I wouldn't even say do it, because of the whole lady problem thing, and because if on the off chance you do get pregnant, that is a huge responsibility. You have also only been dating for three weeks. I wouldn't do it, not only because its only been three weeks, but because it sounds like there is a lot of pressure for you to do it. Ignore the pressure, and if your friend keeps bothering you about it,she isn't a friend. Don't let anyone pressure you into it, not even your bf. Break up with him, if he keeps pushing for it, because that means he doesn't care about you, sad as it is. Hope it helps, I'm not trying to sound mean or anything.

 

If you're still in school, I say it's too early to get pregnant. Deny him. If necessary, lock yourself in your room the entire time you're not in class, until your "time" is up. And, as for the rest, as long as you are over 18, and A)don't plan on getting pregnant AND USE PROTECTION, or B) are going to be together for the rest of your lives (and really mean it - no hesitation, no "it's not working out", nothing like that), go for it.

 

Apart from what others have said, I'd like to emphasize that you've only been together for THREE WEEKS. Frankly Ill be disgusted if you have sex at your age when youve only been with him for barely over a fortnight D: And you cant be that old if your periods are still that irregular >>

Your boyfriend sounds pushy and inconsiderate.

...someone had to say it.

Seriously, just no.

 

Please no, just wait. That would be VERY rash and immature.

 

Wait... you've been going out for a few weeks and already your both thinking about sex? Are you, your boyfriend and your friends totally mad? It's far too early to be thinking about sex for many reasons the main two being your probably a bit too young and the fact you've only been together for a very short time. Seriously, you shouldn't be at a stage to have sex.

 

You might not want to do it right off the bat...or you might get pregnant and people would labe you a whore or something, not saying you are, but just be careful... and think if it feels right...

 

oh, and since you didnt seem to realise, you wont get pregnant if you use a condom correctly. :/

 

Ya but you have be cautios of the chance that it will fail....just, be wary if you do...

 

Condoms don't give 100% protection, EVEN when used correctly. If they did, we wouldn't have any teenage pregnancies.

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I'm gonna say this as nicely as possible:
You're an IDIOT.

You've been with a guy for three weeks. Cool cool. You're thinking about having sex already? Are you nuts? It doesn't matter how old you are - you shouldn't be thinking about having sex with this guy after only being with him for such a short duration.

It's hard to deal with something like that when you surround yourself with people who continually talk about having sex and telling you that you should have sex. I know from experience - which is weird, since I'm only 16 and some guys I know are talking about how they have rough sex and that crap.

Do yourself a favor: Don't do it.
Do you really want to risk pregnancy with some guy you've been with for three weeks?

I see a lot of cases where girls from an affiliated school with my own getting pregnant when they're 14 years old and they're pretty sad stories. They have to deal with the burden of taking care of a child at such a young age and parents don't want anything to do with that girl.

If you KNOW you're gonna get pregnant when you have sex at a certain time and you don't want to, common says: DON'T DO IT. Not too hard to get. If the basis of your temptation to have sex is just because your friend said they did, that's pretty weak.

Peer pressure is no legitimate reason to consenting to having sex, no matter what situation it is. Deal with the crap.

About your boyfriend. "We'll do it when you're ready"?
What kind of ****ing bullshit is that?!
I'm surprised that you even decided to stay with a guy like that. A guy who would be with you for three weeks and then just want to have sex? That's extremely pushy and irrational.

But whatever.
If you have the slightest doubt in your mind, then ponder on it. If you want to get pregnant with some guy's baby who you might break up with later in the future, go right ahead.

 

Basically, everyone here has covered mostly everything. One thing I should mention too, sex should only happen when you are married. I mean, what's a kid going to do if his mom or dad weren't married when they had him/her...? Think about it, and think about the domino effect it's going to have on your furture. Don't do it.

 

I agree, what happens if you have a kid and they grow up thinking that its alright because mom did it when she was my age so its okay...

 

Right, number one, how old are you? If your lady problems have only just started (mine starting at 12) I'd say your too young. You can still get pregnant even if you don't have a period, it is possible, I was told that in my Sex Education class. I'd say no. Just because your friend has done it, doesn't mean you should, and by the sounds of it, you aren't ready, you don't seem to want it that much. Anyway, I'd say just stay away from the topic for a while if you're this uncomfortable with it.

 

Are yo just doing it out of Peer Pressure?

 

Knowing teenage girls today, that is one of the reasons for high pregnancy ratings, so that may be her problem, because her friend has done it and her boyfriend wants to do it, she's feeling pressurised, because she thinks if she doesn't do it she's not as, well, cool as them.

 

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What???

Okay, first of all, same question everyone else has asked, how old are you??? Think worst case scenario here: Either A) you get pregnant or B) you get an STD (which condoms do not always prevent by the way). You may say "My boyfriend doesn't have an STD." Oh really? Can you prove that? You've only known him for, what, less than three weeks??? You don't really know him at all yet. You're still in the "getting to know each other" phase. And if you're still in high school, which I'm going to assume you are, then can you really tell me that you're ready to have a child? What if something went wrong, what would you do? Would the guy be willing to support it, to help you out, or would he just leave?

Also, just because your friend did it does not automatically mean you have to. That is a terrible reason to want to do it. You should do it because you love him, and trust him, and have known him for more than a few freaking weeks!!! For all you know, that's all he wants. I know it sounds harsh, but guys like that are out there. They feed you the whole "We won't do it until you're ready" but then, sneakily, they still rush you into it, and then after that they really don't have any reason to stick around.

DON'T BE STUPID. Seriously, listen to everyone on here. You're not being a wimp if you don't do it, you're being SMART and MATURE.

 

Ya but almost every teenage guy wants something, it is the girls fault if they want to say yes and do something.....all i can say, peer pressure...

 

Agreed, the smart and mature thing to do is to just turn it down until you're older, or you found someone you truley love and respect enough and trust them enough to stick around afterwards. Don't take this the wrong way or anything, it's okay to think about it, and I'm actually quite surprised you've actually had the guts to even ask, which is quite mature to do, but seriously I think you should just stick to hugging and kissing for a while. And honestly, when a guy says, 'We'll wait until you're ready.' They're really meaning, 'If I make her feel guilty and act nice as anything, she'll do it.'

 

yes, it is, and who knows, what if it leads into a bigger problem and the whole school finds out...?