Is rage a good thing to hold onto?

I'm curious to see your opinions on this issue, my question is this:

Is rage and hatred good to hold onto and grasp? Or should everyone just forgive and forget no matter what the circumstance?

This is a subject I'm very curious about for several different reasons, one of which being my personal rage I have held onto for well over ten years now, effectively it made me what I am now. so post your thoughts and respect everyone else's reason and if you want a detailed explanation about mine, feel free to ask me privately and I would be more than happy to explain it.

 

Rage is not something you want to keep bottled up. If you do, it will just keep building up until...
BOOM!
You blow up at someone.

 

Yeah, ignore the person above...

Rage and Hatred are not things to simply let go of, it'd be like letting go of love. And just like every other emotion, it depends what backs them up for them to be right or justified.

 

It depends...if the one their angry at did something forgivable, then forgive...but never forget. And if they do something drastically horrible....yeah, hate them.

Forgivable act-Breaking something accidentally, Annoying, ect.

Unforgivable act-Murder, rape, ect.

Sorries....I have a cruel mind sometimes....I think you get what I'm saying, though....>.>;

 

No, I think they were just examples worthy of mention.

I agree, it completely depends on the situation. There are obvious levels of wrong, whatever they are suggests how much resent should be held for them. I wouldn't say RAGE, but rather a osrt of resentment. Rage in itself is a childish thing to grasp.

 

There are somethings I will never forget.
Like the time one of my friends brought "stuff" to the school dance......he had just left the school to go to another one.......
Im still sorta angery at him for that.

And then their was the time that these boys gained up on my twin bro and really hurt him emotionally........and it just mad me pissed.

And yes every once in a while i do blow up in someones face. And now all the boys are scared of me.

I think the give and forget is good sometimes....but not always.......

 

Rage isn't cool. I don't get mad often so I don't know how to deal with it. Don't hold onto stuff like that it's immature no matter what it is. You may not forgive but you shouldn't let it destroy or consume you. In fact all emotions should go this way. You don't laugh at a joke two years straight after it's told and you don't obsess over a present you got twenty years before. Emotions aren't helpful in any way let them go and chill out. I wish I could get rid of my emotions totally it would be nice. Oh well that's my part of the story.

 

Personally i think it's better to forgive n' forget but obviously sometimes it isn't so easy. It's what makes us human.

I don't think it is good for you to bottle up your rage, just like any other strong emotions, it's best to let it out in small doses.

 

Very very true. I get mad really easyly. And I already got in 3 fights in school. :(
So yeah...

 

It is never good to hold onto anything. Let alone rage. You amy argue that things like rape and murder are unforgivable. But imagine a world without anger to hold onto?

Exactly...people do things for many reasons, fear, pain, lust, arrogance, but behind every terrible deed must be some sort of aggression. Without that aggression and madness, here would never be anything to be mad at.
Anger is never a good thing to hold onto, and you can make an example of yourself by never letting the rage take you over. You may say that this is "people walking all over you", or you're just being lazy or unpassionaite, but it is a wise desicion as it it the only way to get rid of things like murder and rape and stuff. If you exude pain and anger, those around you will feel it and want to be that way as well.

 

I don't agree with you, exactly. 'Cause there's also chemical imbalance and other things we don't know of but I'm only saying you're mostly right just not covering every possible thing that could be looked at. Sorry for the nit picking.

 

Well...I'm a very short tempered person...er...ued to be. Anyone who's known me since I joined the forum can tell you that. But recently, Ive tried to take a step back. I'm a teenager, hormones are my middle name. But you cannot blame anger on things like that, you can blame a lack of patience on that, or a lack of control. But things like that can be trained and tempered. Truthfully, the only thing that causes anger is you.

 

I have major anger issues I have an actual freaking dent in my wall cos one day I got so pissed I punched it :o I hate it when I get angry, I try and keep it all inside because I don't want people to see that side of me, unfortuanetly because I let it all build up it gets worse until I react in one of 2 ways, I either breakdown (serious major lol sometimes I get so angry I cry!) or I get aggressive like once these lads who were 5 years older than me beat my little sister up man it pissed me off so much I went at the both of them! Stupid much?


Rage is not good to hold on to! Forgive but don't forget! I don't think people should let themselves be walked over but rage is not a good thing to keep a hold of, I hate the person I become when I hold on to it so I am currently doing other things to get rid of the tension! RAGE=NOT GOOD!



hehehehe yes its true the calm peaceful CtR had anger management issues! But I'm working through them now! Yay happy lil me! :D

 

I wouldn't say so...I've gotten in trouble God-knows-how-many-times in school for it. Soon enough, you have to let all the rage out, and it usually comes out with some god-forsaken form of violence.

 

i dont think its good to keep rage and hatred

it takes the fun out of life

Ten years?! wow release it now! Out of experience there's this guy i know who hates his dad(im not gonna say why). Well hes cool but not too fun to be around because hes always gloomy and "emo".

Altogether. dont keep it in. If you ever have kids it wont be good for them to grow up in that kind of environment.

 

It doesn't contribute to your growth as a healthy human being spiritually or physically. When you feel it building try hitting the gym or going for a run, it does the mind and body good. It's okay to get angry and frustrated, but if you find yourself feeling either one to be something common, physical activity can do wonders.

 

lol its true! Thats why I now play tennis! Beating the **** out of the tennis balls is great! lol or I go iceskating

 

most times u should just let it go. becuz it DOES cloud your judgement whether u want it to or not. and u develop a sort of black and white kind of thinking when it comes to things relating to wat ur angry about. but if something bad DID happen like someone beating up someone else for no reason, u SHOULD stay angry, at least if they don't apologize or make up for what happened.

 

See, Evilman, that's the same way you looked at that whole murder thing. That is truthfully not healthy. Everyone does things for a reason, wether for fun or they're just an idiot. Be the bigger man, and be the smarter man. Know that anger is not the right way to go, the next time you see that person that beat you up, don't get all pissed, pity them. They were obviously stupid and juvenile enough to do that.

 

hey, truthfully is a good way of looking at things too. but pitying them is pretty stupid if u ask me, it shows nothing and accomplishes nothing, but neither does anger does it? if it was something that horrible they did, u have the right to remain angry.