Huh, who wouldve thought I'd be in this section again... KHV,I'm in a bit of a situation I've recently been having a whole bunch of stress issues, anxiety problems etc. Its mostly from my school work. I'm in my final year at school so my last lot of exams are soon and the pressure is killing me. Having just gotten my results from my last test, the majority of my marks were in the 70s. The course that I want to get into requires that I get 90. So heres some things that are stressing me: 1. My teachers. My art teacher especially, he may as well be just a giant d*ckhead. I have to do a major artwork due in a few months that I've barely started because he keeps telling me to change my idea. My solution is that I've changed it for a final time, not even telling him about it, not asking him for advice (I teach him how to use Photoshop anyway) and just doing my thing. My stress is that if i do that I might not get the greatest mark, but I don't want to have to change my idea every month. Some of my other subjects just call for some really intense study, and some just really frustrate me. Some things i used to get 90 in I get 65 in now. When I ask my teacher what I did wrong, she'll give me some sort of really vague comment that doesnt help me at all. This happens with most of my subjects. It frustrates me because I don't know what I'm doing wrong and no one will help me. 2. My boyfriend. Don't get this wrong, he is not the stress. He is, however, frustratingly determined to go out with me when I'm trying to study. He doesn't understand why I'm so stressed, or how stressed I am. We're in the same classes and because he can do really well in exams without studying, he expects me to do the same thing. So while I'm sitting in my room focusing on en essay or something, he will text me virtually every 10 minutes. "Hellooooo?" "Why arent you replying!" "Stop worrying about the exams!" "Stop stressing and reply" I told him off the other day about it, and told him that I don't prepare for exams the way he does, I'm not as smart as him, and when I tell him I'm studying, I'm ****ing studying. Long story short we had a fight because he thinks just because I don't text him when I'm busy means I don't like him anymore...so now our conversations are just full of awkward silences. To add to the anxiety, I'm worried I've hurt him by not texting him as much. 3. Social. Don't get me started on my social awkwardness. This is building from a thread I posted in January about 'anxiety and insanity'? Its basically the fact that I worry about what people will think of me if I do just about ANYTHING. It seems like I'm always trying really hard and not getting anywhere. I'm putting myself down all the time as sort of a motivational technique...but I'm not satisfied with any of my marks so far. I don't believe I'm good enough and the worst part is that I take it out on my friends, my family, my boyfriend etc. I don't feel like I can explain to them whats wrong with me because I'm worried they'll judge. I have virtually run out of all confidence, because in my head, "not good enough"="not good at all." So yeah, KHV, thats where I stand. Any help would be greatly appreciated :)
Wow, that sounds rough for you right now. I can give you my two cents, I don't know if it will help any, but I tries. 1. People are critics, and they are going to tell you to change it until they like it, and they will never like it because they aren't doing it. Go with what you feel is right and do it. I have found when doing big final projects, teachers are going to say no you shouldn't that...to all your ideas. **** that, go with what you think is right, and make that **** awesome! As for finding out what you have done wrong, if you get your test back and get to keep them, go to a tutor/adviser and have them help you explain, or make a appointment with your teacher and ask them to dumb down what they are saying so you can understand it and fix it. 2.I think with this situation, I think you should apologize for blowing up at him, sit him down and explain that these finals are really getting to you and your freaking out, and that you could really use his help and support right now. Tell him how you do feel about him, but that you need to focus on studying right now, until school is over. 3.Finally, people are judgmental towards everybody, it's just how it is. But if they love you and care for you, that shouldn't matter. They won't judge you if they love you. You gotta stop worrying about what other people will think, because everybody thinks differently. The only thing that you have to do, is have confidence in yourself, and gotta stop thinking if your good enough. You gotta think to yourself "I'm the ****ing ****, and I rule". Don't worry about what others will think, that's whats going to get you down. I hope that I have helped you with some of this stuff, and I hope you get great grades and pull through this. You got this :D
1. This actually helped a lot, so thankyou. I was actually on Photoshop the other day and my art teacher really liked what I had done so far, so I think as far as school goes, I'm gonna be ok 2. I tried to talk to him and explain that I'm stressed and that I need his help...and he kinda just blew up at me. He was going on about how I just 'must not like him'. I told him that wasn't true and that I still do, but that I need to focus. He was still pissed off...so yeah thats annoying me a bit 3. Much easier said than done. I can't just say to myself 'screw the haters, I'm awesome', I don't work that way. I suppose that's one of those things that will get better with time. Thankyou for your advice :)
Alright! 1. School is always like, you can find teachers like that anywhere, and these exams and all that other stuff it can stress you out because they like to tell you stuff like "Your future depends on these exams so make sure you study and don't mess up!" Of course I remember a few of my teachers saying that and I was like "Thanks for the encouragement!" So don't let school stress you out, it's not worth it, you're almost done with school. Don't let it turn you into a Heartless lol. 2. As for your boyfriend. THAT FRUITCAKE NEEDS TO UNDERSTAND THAT NOT EVERYONE CAN BE LIKE HIM, SOME PEOPLE HAVE TO STUDY, NOT EVERYONE IS THE SAME, NOT EVERYONE HAS PHOTOGRAPHIC MEMORY AND CAN REMEMBER EVERYTHING BEING SHOWN OR TOLD TO THEM! Anyways I can relate to him a little bit though, I have that ability to do amazing on tests without studying and I do have photographic memory, but he shouldn't try to distract you, instead he should be HELPING YOU if he''s so amazing in school. 3. Social problem? Here's a simple solution, Ignore. Block. Remove. Sever. Live Life Without Them. That's what I do to those that hold me back. Hopefully all of this makes sense, I was kind of rushing so I can get back to talking to you on IM lol.
