I can't take it anymore. I hate my life. My ex and his new girlfriend really hate me, and I don't know why. I did nothing to them, but they keep calling me a ***** and a ****. His mom keeps calling me and says I can talk to her about anything, but it's not helping. I still love him, but he hates my ****ing guts. I'm starting to cut myself again because of him, and I don't wanna face him when I go back to school. What hurts is that I really wanna prevent him from getting hurt. His new girlfriend cheats on all her boyfriends; does he think she'll just change for him? And what is really irritating is that she lied to me about liking him. She was acting like a "friend" and kept saying, "Oh, he's so fat, and only girls are supposed to have breasts." Then she turns around and is all, "Oh, I really like him." I ****ING HATE HER!!!
Ehm. Push those negative thoughts away. I mean, will you truly settle for scraps like him? Let him find out the truth about his new girlfriend on his own. You have to stop mourning over things that aren't really important. I'm sure you can do much better than him. You don't have to be over him, just remind yourself that he is nothing to you anymore.
I don't know what's wrong with me. I've been crying over him all weekend. He used to be so sweet and charming, but that was when he had a heart. I really want him to find out on his own so I could just say, "I told you so" to him, but I keep thinking that I'll end up feeling guilty. His parents still like me, and they said if they could do anything about it, they would. They said he said he'd at least be my friend (although I doubt his girlfriend will let him be my friend). I don't know why this is the one guy that I can't get over.
you better be running from me at school if I dare see any cuts on your arms ._. hun i'm sorry that you're doing this, but if I dare see any marks on you, I'm gonna have to report you. You need help.. ): I'm here to help you as always.. the best thing to do, is forget about them. If they say anything about, I'll take you to the principals Monday and tell them they're saying stuff about you, whether on or off property. Don't let them ruin your life. Let them know. And don't let him be the one to make you feel bad. It was just a stupid thing that shouldn't last for 4 months... it's over, just let it go... You made a mistake, but who doesn't? I made plenty of them relationship wise but you don't see me doing all this ****.. i dated the worst person at school, and you know him.. But i don't give myself crap for that... I need to talk to you anyways, and see if you can come up for my slumber party Friday anyways (: me and you can talk then....
The cuts aren't noticable. You can barely see them. I know I need help, but where do I turn when my friends just put me down and I hardly see you? Please don't take me to the principal's office. I'll just try to ignore them. I did nothing to Wes for him to hate me, but I just know that I was the mistake in our relationship. I really wanna move on, but I'm scared to talk to anybody because the same thing happens: they don't like me back.
Hmm.... let's see. well first thing that I have to say is going to sound really cheesy but this is something that would be best to always keep in mind. There is always, always hope. Right now, you just lost a boyfriend and found out that a friend betrayed your trust. Its only natural to feel like you are in the pit of despair. It's only natural to hate the one you called your friend. and it's only natural to still be in love with your ex. These depressing feelings are natural in a situation like this. You want help, you said it yourself, but you don't know where to turn to for advice. well as I read through the thread, I noticed that someone, you know personally, responded and said that you can talk to them. You replied that that person is not always there. Well you know what's great about modern day technology? you can talk to people through the internet. Another person that you should consider speaking with is your parents. Parents are great if you are having problems with life. They care about your life and will always take the time to help you with your problems. Even if they are not good at giving you advice, you should speak with them. just letting everything out helps. As for the girl who betrayed your trust, well you best stay away from her. Do your best to avoid fighting with her because that will probably end with more feelings of depression over the whole matter. If you want to cry, then cry. let it all out. As I said before, it's good to let it all out. As for the Ex, what you do about him is up to you, just don't go to him and tell him why he shouldn't date that girl. As you said, the best thing to do is to let him learn for himself. These feelings take time to go away. What would be best to do, while waiting, would be to keep yourself active in order to forget about the pain. one last thing. Stop cutting yourself! that doesn't help anything at all. It will only make things worst and it can even become a habit. Don't do it! It will only help to keep you depressed. I hope everything ends up well for you. remember to have hope. :)
I'll give my opinion, which isn't a promise that everything will be solved, but at least I would've tried to help. I don't know all the story, but it's obvious you didn't get treated fairly. Unfortunately, life isn't always fair. People often say to "keep fighting on" and never give up, but fighting back is easier said than done. Especially when it is your loved ones that betray you. It will certainly be hard, but you must try to fight on. You said you don't want your ex to be hurt, that his new girlfriend doesn't respect him, and so on. Then, don't let them see you downed and hopeless. Your boyfriend CAN'T just suddenly change his feelings, from love to hate. Likely that's nothing more than his new girlfirend's influence. Who knows what she said about you. My point is, if you're coming to school with tears in your eyes and red marks on your skin, he'll never see you as desirable. Be strong, and see what made him change. Talk to his mom ; if she can help, very well, if she can't, then so be it. You say you are sure you are the mistake of the relationship. I doubt it. Even if I don't know who you are, I don't think you are responislbe for everything : If you did something so horrible that even your boyfriend started hating you overnight, then you know what it is. There's nothing you could've done that's SO bad, but that you don't know. Since you didn't mention anything like that, then you aren't responsible for your suffering. Don't just "get over him" instantly ; if you cared so much about him, you can't just forget him and move on, like many people say. At least, not so quickly. That's why I suggest finding out what's going on... The one thing I can say is to try to talk with him. Don't fear facing him! If he changed recently, then now's the time to act and see what's going on. Ask him honestly why he changed his feelings like this. Don't insult him, but don't back off, either. And whatever happens, don't let shyness or fear overtake you. He's your ex, and he doesn't treat you like he should. If you don't find it fair, then ask for answers. If my opinion helps, very well, if it doesn't, then so be it.
I've tried talking to him as a friend, but he just ignores me. And I'm pretty sure I'm the mistake of the relationship. I had a list of things that could be possible, but I still don't think it's any of them. Fat? He's overweight as well, but I saw through that and loved him for him. Ugly? Just because I'm not a goddess with breasts bigger than the rest of my body (pretty much Kaitie), I'm still kinda pretty. Too big to to have sex with? Okay, we had sex ONCE. With protection. Apparently, you have to be a stick to have sex with him (although he'll end up...eh, never mind). @Pezz: My parents used to listen to me, but now all they do is yell at me and tell me to stop acting like a baby. My mom always tries to tell me that I have to automatically be mean to him now, and whenever I tell her I miss him, she screams at me and tells me I'm stupid and a whore.
If your parents saw you being depressed, and heard that your boyfriend did such a thing to you, then it's not very suprising that they act this way. Likely they now consider your ex as a freak, and therefore have decided to put their authority to good use. I'd venture to say that they noticed you didn't "solve the problem" yourself. Therfore, they want to make you forget about him, thus helping you in the long run. As for screaming to you and calling you a whore, well, I have no good explanation. Both me and some of my friends have parents that sometimes think insulting us is the way to go. And about your ex. He ignores you? And runs away everytime you approach him? A thing like this, although not as serious, already happened to me too. A distant friend of mine was extremely depressed because her ex moved away. After cheering her up, we became close friends, but not lovers or anything. Yet a few months later, her ex moved back into town, and she actually decided to ignore me... because I came in her life only because her ex had left. Now that he was back, she was happy again, and rejected me. I got over it, but I still can't believe such thing happened, even today. She was really stupid. The reason I'm telling you this, is because much later, a year or so, the girl realised that she had acted like a heartless weirdo. And she came to ask me for forgiveness. This proves that, even if something compeltely unexpected happen, people can change back. I'm not saying you should wait a year and see if your ex changes. He might, but don't waste your life waiting. As I said in my last post, trying to communicate would be what I'd do... but if you say it doesn't work, I don't know how to help. I too tried communicating with that girl when she started ignoring me, but it didn't work for me either. All I can think of now is to come to terms with your parents. Tell them honestly that you are going through a rough phase, and that you need their love and support. If and when they start yelling at you because you still miss your ex, remind them that the events happened recently, and you can't change your feelings this fast. Maybe your ex was hearltess enough to do so, but you obviously aren't.
I'll just have to deal with the fact that he hates me. But my older brother (he's really good friends with my ex) said if push comes to shove, I'll have to end up fighting Kaitie...and possibly Wes.
