Well I've made these threads before, but usually for relationships and such. This is a long drawn out speech on who I am, so if you wanna know my situation, enjoy the 10 mins of mind-fuck. K so. I'm a very antisocial person. I have never been to the movies with friends. I've never gone to a birthday party, much less host my own for friends to come over. I don't have a reason for what I do, I just fool myself into thinking I have no friends because I'm too mature for them. This has been going on since my age of 13 where I had a traumatic experience and "grew up" ( I was a bit too childish as well as hyper). I'm not like that anymore. I used to be the class clown and hog all the attention. Now I just barely talk in class. Don't get me wrong, I have tons of friends AT SCHOOL, but they really aren't friends unless I go that extra mile and hang with em after school or at least talk to them at lunch. I sit at a different lunch table every week or so so no one gets to know me. I have had a crush on a few girls in my school and always miss the opportunity to have them for myself. I've never had a true real life girlfriend before. I don't have any good "friends" that I do stuff with, so I loose the chance. I can only hide behind a false name and avoid social contact with someone. No one has to see my face. No one has to know who I am. I'm free to do what I want. Today, I had somewhat of an epiphany and realized how fucking pathetic my life is. Just be reading this over, I have come to understand that I actually love it when people talk to me, but act like I hate everyone. I look like I have friends and hang out with people in real life outside of school, but the only real reason anyone wants me around is because I'm the only FUCKING GUY AT SCHOOL WITH A WATCH SO I CAN TELL THEM THE TIME OF DAY! I feel like such a ******bag for being the kind of person I am today and I just don't know what to do with my life anymore. I always expected myself to live a promising life in modern society, but I never saw myself with anyone by my side. Sorry if you can't tolerate how emo this is, but its not like I cut myself. I'm not depressed and I'm not ugly or anything. No I'm not repulsive in anyway, but I feel like my life is corroding away, bit by bit and I'm not using the time wisely enough. I want to enjoy high school. I want to live life to the fullest. I know the school year is almost over in the US, but I want this advice for when I go to the next grade so I don't fuck it up like I did this year. Please, I don't want any 1-3 sentence posters posting here. You know who you are. If you have a GOOD motivating and heartwarming post, I suggest you help me out because I'm getting a bit saddened by this whole thing. If you have like...a question or something, that cool. I'll answer it for ya. EDIT: I forgot to mention that I **** up most of my erelationships too, so I'm a bit ronery.
Sorry to hear about this news. Don't worry, your friends at KH-Vids will always respect you. I respect you as you being my first friend on kh-vids. Heh. I won't forget the days when you asked me questions and we became friends hehe. Just cope with life the way it is for now, try to get along and don't think such bad things whenever you are in trouble. Get as much help as possible and be yourself. EDIT: When I switched schools my life was a little like that too, so I know how you feel.
Heh, most of that describes my life, except that I really am pretty repulsive. Since Sophomore year in high school, I have cultivated a sort of aura of weirdness so that no one ever understands me. The only guy who did was an annoying little Freshman (I was a senior when I met him) who was in my Archaeology class. God, we annoyed the hell out of each other. Eventually it became one of those things where, if you hang out with someone enough, you get to know him and become friends. We were partnered together in almost every single activity in that class. We haven't spent a week without talking in the past 3 years. He is the only person IRL I really consider to be a friend, and I'm OK with that. I mean, we don't hang out as much, with me up at college and him still trying to survive high school with an obsessive foster mother and no driver's license, but we still talk quite often, about anything and everything. Yes, it may sound pathetic to be that much of a loner, but look at it this way - I got to completely ignore the fatuous, petty rivalries of kids in high school. I mean, I never had to deal with who likes who, or what's happening in some obsessive girlfriend's life, or any of that crap. Maybe some people are more socially-inclined than I am, but I have an excuse - ADD and Asperger's syndrome. Combined, they make me a social ******. Literally. Both are on the autism spectrum. Well, better wrap this up before I start to ramble... I've offered a point of view in over 3 sentences. Good luck with your life.
Wow...this is actually serious.Let's see... Well you can go over this "phase" and continue being a loner or you can try to change, but even if you change don't expect everything to go all smooth and nice...or atleast at the moment. People are hard to make true friendships with, but if you find ine person who's willing to be a "best friend", then you're set. the rest will just be friends or classmates or whatever. Sometimes we need to place ourselves on the spot, this dosen't mean you'll be the class clown, but more sociable...seriously enjoy the crap, pain and happiness of school years...in a few more they will be gone and you'll regret not enjoying everything. I think you know this already, but if it helps...
You sound like you're in the winter of your life, on your deathbed, telling the last person standing near you your life story. You're younger than me man, lighten up. You've got the option to bounce back. Hang out a little longer with your friends, the days are getting longer anyway. Summer movies are movies everyone wants to see, so invite your friends to some. Things aren't as bad as you think. You seem like a pretty cool guy on the forums. Act like you do here in real life (just not like that thread where pretty much everyone was mad at you) and good things are sure to happen.
I know how you feel. Although right now I have friends next year I'm transferring schools. And the bad thing is I'll miss my friends. Good thing is CLEAN SLATE!!!. Even though your not transferring a new school year = new you. So here are some tips that I'm trying to do myself. - Don't be afraid to talk to random people. That's how you make friends most of the time RANDOMLY ^_^ - Don't put yourself down. No one likes to be around a downer. You need to tell yourself you are great person with a big heart. If you look yourself straight in the mirror and tell yourself this than that is what you will become in time. (random acts of kindness helps you grow nicely, like helping someone that dropped their books in the hallway or helping mom with the dishes) -SMILE!!! When you smile your body releases a chemical that makes you actually feel better. so CHIN UP! - DO NOT LISTEN OR WATCH DEPRESSING THINGS. It's okay to have the songs or shows on your iPod, but try to keep the majority of what you listen to happy. Even the news can stress you out. All they talk about is swine flu and shootings and death. Only watch enough to know the bottom line of what's going on. When the reporters start throwing in their two-cents TURN IT OFF OR TO ANOTHER CHANNEL - Lastly try to look inviting, most of the time if you look depressed then people will assume you're a scary person (I know this because my friends still tell me of the times a couple years ago when they though I was always sad because that's just the way my eyes look which is why I have to smile a lot so I don't always look depressed) I'm not going to say "omg y teh world don't you just talk to random peepz!!!" because it's probably best to start this next year because if you have this supposed reputation of being this way, changing like right now would seem pretty weird and probably uncomfortable. Changing for anyone will take time as you probably know, and so hopefully you can practice this over the summer. One more thing I'd like to say is, -Over the summer try to get into an activity with a group basketball league, swimming, random classes, drama (I'm going for vocal and sewing) Wish you luck!!!
Whoa... That's EXACTLY how I live... Like I was reading my own profile..:( Thus, you definitely have my sympathies. I've always felt like all of my real friends are on the internet. Most of these folks I talk to on MSN or AIM, and I trust them like I know them in real life. My friends in school, I feel as if they'd double-cross me for a buck in a heartbeat, thus I hang out with them only because I know its the loners that are bullied. Reading this has partially inspired me to try to be an overall friendlier and more social (the other inspiration being a crush I've kept to myself for too long..)
OH, i'm sorry man....i used to be like that before i changed schools. I never had a best friend until about five years ago when she transferred to my school and we hang out a lot. i do feel some of you're pain because i have never had a "true" girlfriend but i have dated plenty of girls before.....and i want to have a grilfriend so bad.....and the friend thing, i just go up to people that i have seen before and i just talk to them..... well good luck.....!!!!
Ok, sometimes in order to solve a problem, you need to listen what someone has to say about it. The good and the bad. That's exactly what I'm going to do here. not everything that I have to say will be all heart warming, because that's doesn't solve anything, all that does is shield you from what you need to hear. Not listening to what you don't want to hear is, in itself, immaturity. Ok, I'll start with what you don't want to hear, so prepare yourself, this is heavy. You are not as mature as you think you are. In fact you are far from it. To be truly mature you must have a balance of many traits. For one, a mature person wouldn't go and look down on everybody around them because they think those around them are immature. First off, you don't even know the whole story about everyone around you. A lot of things that those "immature" people around you do are probably what any normal healthy person should do. This kind of attitude will work against you if you want to create a social life. Now I don't know what happened in your past that was so traumatizing, But what ever it was, you need to put it behind you. You're not the only one whose been traumatized in their past, I have too. but you need to put that behind you before you can advance. If you have, that's great. If you haven't, then get started on it. I'm not saying you have to forget, forgive, or whatever, I'm saying you need to look forward, not backward. One more thing before moving one. Just because you had some traumatic experience doesn't mean that all of the sudden you know more than those other kids, at school, about being mature. It's can be quite the opposite actually. While you are out there keeping to yourself, they are out there having a life. they are learning how to be truly mature. This is what you need to do. You are already far behind. You are in a similar position that I was in when I was still a kid. Okay, how to fix this. It's not going to be easy at all. you'll have to take it slow and perhaps become maybe a little more goofy. Everybody loves goofy people. Why? Because they take the tension out of life. This was how I did it. That and by getting a job. If you can become entertaining to a group of people, then they wouldn't mind hanging out with you. However, you are the one who will have to invite them. They aren't going to invite you right now probably because they think you are a party pooper. So invite someone over to hangout, play video games, go outside, or even to go camping with. once they see that you can be fun to be with, then they will be more likely to invite you to do things with them. This is how you fix the problem Hope that helps, good luck! :D
You are trying to figure out where it is that you stand in the world. It's nothing to feel pathetic about. You are finding out about yourself by the manner in which you realize your flaws and work to correct them. Much of what you stated has happened to me in the past, and i'll assume to some degree with a number of other members here. Transitioning from jr high to hs, I went from being open and friendly to stone cold and always nervous. I broke out of that shell when I realized that I wasn't living. My simple answer: You want change, then you have to change.
