[We're overdue for one of my crush threads, aren't we?] Yeah, I'm actually trying to ask her out on a real date this time. Mainly by mentioning the word "date" in the asking part. Unfortunately, she's not online right now because she's on vacation in Seattle and it's 11:00 PM for her. However, it does give me more time to actually think about how I'm going to word everything. The first part (that I've already sent to her) goes a little something like this: "Hey, it just occurred to me that the last day of Jazz and Rib Fest this year is on your birthday. Since you're not on, it struck me as the perfect opportunity to ask if you wanted to go out for ribs on your birthday. I can give you both of your gifts* if they've arrived." *The gifts are a Tardis necklace and a tote bag for her computer with a Tardis print on the side. God it's easy to shop for Whovians. And now I'm trying to write out the hard part. So far, I have: "And, you know, with the two of us alone, two "alone people" spening time with each other together...alone, we treat it as a sort of date-type situation. You know, what with me buying you food, giving you gifts, and the two of us spending time alone together. What do you think?" Shall I: A) Just send that first draft like ripping off a bandage and hoping the wound won't still be bleeding or B) Revise it and risk losing the confidence streak that I'm on right now? /totallycouldhavebeenahelpwithlifethread
In my opinion, I'd say for you to ask her directly while trying to share how awkward you're feeling(Which would make me hypocritical since, hey, I'd probably be feeling the same thing if I was in your situation) But your draft seems to be enough, so yeah, I'd say send it.
I think the first part was asking her out on a date and that the second part isn't really needed. It sounds a bit awkward. But somewhere, clarify that you want her to go with just you. Like..simply put "it struck me as the perfect opportunity to ask if you wanted to go together."
Don't think about it too hard, just simply ask her. Not to appear as "pft I don't care lol bi.tch wanna grab a bite with me?" Looking like you're tryingtoo hard seems like a bad image imo. I guess what Im trying to say is, try to make the moment spontaneous.
1. She's on the other side of the country right now and will be until Saturday. 2. We hardly ever see each other until after we've coordinated when to hang out. Asking her directly just isn't in the cards. Yeah, that whole "date type situation" part was intentionally awkward. It's a reference to a show we both watch. Unless that's not the part you meant. Or um...yeah. Yeah, that would have been a good idea. Oh well, I'm just gonna hope for the best. Bandage approach it is.
Just ask her straight out and more casually. If you're awkward, she'll feel awkward, and she won't know how to react. Be smooth as best you can.
As I said I went with the bandage approach. So I sent that last part to confirm that I wanted our date to be a date, and now I'm hoping for the best.
Shoulda Done what I did (different girl, not the one I posted about in HWL) rewrite "Blink" by Chameleon Circuit and Change the Sally Sparrow part to "_________, I wrote you a letter, to make feel better bout the fact I like you." So on and so forth changing lyrics to fit. She said yes to me and has no idea what the weeping angels are (Barely on series 2). So hey, go for it and may the odds be ever in your favor.
I commend you for asking her out. You are a more courageous man than I, in that aspect. The only two times I ever asked a girl out I was rejected. Ever since then I've had an irrational fear of rejection. Good luck, good sir.
Too late. I already sent that last message, to which I appended: "And as usual, if I'm not on when you see this, just respond anyway. I will see your response at some point and I will react accordingly." I think my chances are alright. My Bolin-esque awkwardness will get her inner Korra to say yes while my Mako-esque...something or other that I have yet to discover will appeal to her inner fangirl. I'm sure of it. NO. I am DONE with the Hunger Games fandom. I will NOT be pulled back in. It was a great book with a horrible cliffhanger where it should have had a well written sequel hook. End rant.
Thank you. I will absolutely keep you guys updated. Thanks a bunch. I just got a major and inexplicable confidence boost today (seriously, it came out of nowhere) and I knew that I couldn't let it go to waste. Now I just have to wait for her necklace (shipping from the Philippines, could take a month to get here, hasn't even shipped yet), her bag (on the way~), and her reply. Yeah, yeah. Whatever.
Bravo sir. Good luck. I kinda am in a situation with a girl I really like, and I want to say something before it ends up like the last girl I really liked, but I really don't want to mess things up this time and lose her as a really close friend...
