Hate and Grudges

I don't hold hate or grudges unless it's either in the moment or in my head. I'll have conversations with people without them being there and if they piss me off in my head I act hateful towards them when I see them. If someone f***s with me the wrong way, I get pissed and go off, but that's about it.

They don't last long anyway, so it's a hate of passion (in the moment). Of course, I am just a teensy bit . . . we'll say "goofy."

I don't get the point in holding something against someone. What's in the past is in the past.

 

I have a tendency to hold a grudge depending on the person.

There's one guy at work who has hated me since I stepped through the door. I always hold a grudge against him because of his abuse that he's thrown at me while I've done nothing wrong.

I hate my father because of what has happened to my mom and me because of him. He has done a lot of hurtful things that makes me pissed off at him at the mere mention of his name.

But usually, I don't hold a grudge or anger against someone for a long time, and when I do, I later on regret it.

 

I try not to hold grudged for too long. I think my longest grudge was 2 years. There was an altercation on the playground in Grade 4, he ended up calling me a bitch, and we both got a week's detention.When I spoke to him in Grade 6, he didn't even remember the event, so I let it go. Other than that one incident, I find grudges take too much energy to hold on to. You have to remember every time you see that person that they did something to you and that you have to scowl or perform an action to show that you still remember what they did and they should too. Really, it's exhausting. I pretty much forget I was mad within a day or two.

As for hatred, I can't say I've hated anyone before. I've said I hated someone, but that was mostly because I was too lazy to say "I intensely dislike you". I find that hating people is akin to wanting them dead and wishing for it day after day after day. Again, it's too much energy and why should you give the person you dislike intensely the satisfaction of tiring you out?