Call me what you want, but for one reason or another, I can't exactly be all that confident in talking to girls, I suppose. Sure, I can talk to them, but when I try to be funny, flirt, or something, I usually end up not being funny, being ignored or just annoying her. And, like, if I try to be friends with these certain girls, they would just act like they don't know me around their friends, try to keep contact to a minimum, etc. A perfect example would be my friend, Saria. I've known her and her family for quite a while now, yet, if I say, "What's up?" or something, she'd just give me some wimpy wave, hardly noticeable to anyone on the outside. I ask her a question, or some small talk, she wouldn't even say a word. Another female my age I know of. Prettiest thing my eyes have ever laid on. Easily talk to her on aim (even though she sometimes doesn't answer), or something. But it's kind of hard for me to talk to her in real life. But yeah. Any help?
Trust me man, I know what exactly you're going through. You just have to give it your all. Talk to her any chance you get. Compliment her. Flirt, talk, and just hang around her. Then after giving her attention, eventually ask her out. In person is the best, it shows you've got convidence and courage. Good luck.
She's either extremely shy or just isnt intrested. If its not gonna work, it's not gonna work, it's a harsh truth Im afraid :/ If you wanna work on talking to girls in general, well... You need to get more confident socially in generally. Hang out with friends more. Talk to more girls, not just the one's you are intrested in. It's not bad to talk to them lots over IM- maybe she'll realise you are quite shy and like that side if you. Saria doesnt really sound like a friend tbh :/ But yeah, I know it feels like everybody around you is hooking up and a lot of people are getting together, but seriously, dont feel pressure to get with anyone at 14 ~ Although, I guess Im a hypocrite in that sense :v
I guess it's one of those heads of tails things... Either she likes you or she doesn't... Either way, there's plenty more fish in the sea... It wont be the end of the world if you can't talk to a girl... Just give it time...
I agree with some of the others, you really don't need to rush to the dating scene this early. You've still got many years to spend with girls =P When talking with girls, just remember to yourself. Sounds cliché (and can be a bit hard to be at times) but not faking things is really important. If you act like someone else with her, you're pretty much basing your possible relationship/friendship on a lie (although a few white lies rarely can hurt anyone). If she isn't interested in you, then she isn't. She probably isn't worth all the trouble, if she really is ignoring you.
Thanks, I really appreciate that. Nothing wrong in socializing with the opposite sex. I really am social, I do sometimes talk to girls that I'm not necessarily interested in. I guess it's just this one girl that I'm nervous to talk to, since I'm not generally a shy person, I am just around her. Yeah, she's been really shady, lately. But, eh, what can you do? It's not that everyone's hooking up, it's just, I really like her. Nothing to do with peer pressure, I'm just interested in getting to know her, and possibly build a relationship out of it. Yeah, I kind of am the type to be used to rejection. Heh. Naw, no ignoring going on here, and no faking. Just me being me. I'll try to keep that in mind, though.
if its a girlfriend your looking for than act like yourself if they like you for a fake attitude you use in public/school then they wont know who you really are, but you cant show your too interested or else she will think you are desperate for her. you should just be her friend and hang out with her, if she likes you back than its perfect, but if she doesnt talk to you, then whats the point of going out... i know people who are bf/gf and they dont talk to eachother.... they just like being able to say they are going out with eachother hope that helps you
ouch......well, this sounds pretty bad. mayB they don't like you? i'd go with just being yourself, don't put a mask on to get a girl. thats' probably why online couples last a while, is because the two ppl end up knowing each other before they meet. if they meet. so, take my word for it Sir, just ignore the rejection, let it slide, and when you get Bar Rafeali(sp?) as your GF, rub it in their faces.
Yeah. That was a problem for me for a few years a while ago. But if you get the intention of being more-than-friends with them out of your head, it's a lot easier and sometimes can result in relationships, etc. For example, when I decided that getting a gf is really secondary to my interest, I met a lot more girls and got a lot more friends (girl-wise) that were closer to me. And it's only been 2 years and I've had a few girlfriends over the course of that time as a result. Don't fret on it too much. Remember: no strings. It sounds cliche and lame, but it worked for me, so why not give it a shot? lul
heh, i had this problem, just be sure to compliment her, try and talk to her, and try not to be a jerk :0 she might found out the real you, and like you for who you are. I remember in history, mrs. lemons put in the same group as Tawni.. a girl who HATED MY GUTS but i liked her so much. by the end of the year, i got her to like me. Remember, no one likes a mask, as soon as she founds out, you'll get a knee in your ping pongs... if you know what i mean.
