I really wanted to put this topic out for discussion because I found it really interesting. Earlier in the year I made a thread which addressed the differences between being judged in person and being judged online, well now I'm talking about different social networking sites. For example: I behave differently on Facebook than I do here. I guess its because on facebook its more about what you are doing and what you are up to and presenting yourself to your facebook friends. Here its more of a community. I guess part of the reason is because there is a difference between the purpose of forums and sites like facebook, but another reason could be the audience. On facebook, its mostly people you see outside of the internet, so they can pull you up on it in person and then...I guess it becomes sort of...real? Not to say that posting here isn't real haha but I think what you say here can kinda be forgotten after a while, and people don't single others out as much. Though I think this is funny: The more people I add on facebook that I have met here, the more comfortable I am posting stuff there. Its weird lol I can't exactly explain it haha Basically what I'm asking is: Do you find yourself behaving differently here than on facebook/other social networking sites? And if so, what do you think it is about the other sites that makes you behave differently?
Yes, I do behave differently on facebook, as well as here. On facebook, I'm more random and carefree and stuff. Here, I just comment on random stuff and laugh at time (though I am braver here than on facebook or in life outside the internet) I think this is because in these sites I feel more secure because the fact that your on a computer gives me the feeling of anonymity or secrecy, mostly because people can't see you so they can't see your reactions. It's easier to say things online because people don't see how you act rather they only see what you type. Another thing, it's easier to think before typing than to think before speaking.
I behave a lot more stupidly and rash on facebook than i do on here. I dunno why, i guess it's just kinda because on here whenever i'm typing/responding to something i know it's a forum and whatnot and it seems a bit more formal than something like Facebook. Facebook and Twitter just seem like that kinda thing that you go on and post whatever in, whereas KHV actually has sections that define what you can talk about. I dunno, i'm half asleep atm XD
To be honest, I hate Facebook. I find it really pointless--the most I use it for is creeping, leaving links for my sister, and the chat function (which, I prefer Skype to anything, but not everyone has it). I find most things on Facebook rather ridiculous and am opposed to some of its common uses--for example, I loathe the people who post like "at Panera with Joe!" statuses. Number one, frankly, I don't care. I know that's mean and boohoo my feelings but to be honest, I kind of doubt that 98% of your Facebook friends really need to know where you had lunch or what you just bought in the supermarket. Secondly, I think it kind of ruins human interaction. Not just that people are using it instead of actually physically communicating, but because going out with someone is personal--not personal as in "wah I don't want you butting into my life" but it's something you share with the people you're out with. It makes things feel less... special, I guess? What we did together is something exclusive and unique shared between us; it is just you and whoever else you choose to involve. But suddenly, people are advertising it all on Facebook, posting pictures of every ten minutes, every laugh we had, what everyone wore. It's like people can feel like they went without actually going. It makes it feel less personal. And almost like they weren't looking to hang out with me, but rather, to have something to share online. And then there's the birthday issue. People don't remember it because they're considerate or I'm important to them, but rather because Facebook left them a little reminder to post a quick and impersonal "happy birthday" on my timeline. And you feel obligated to, even if you hardly know the person! For this reason I approach Facebook rather... satirically. I scroll through and judge everyone. v: My status updates are usually just humorous life comments that come to mind or a quote I really like at the moment. Twitter as well. I use them when I need to, or when I have ~140 characters I just feel like sharing with the planet. I don't understand how people spend hours everyday on them. I really don't. I get the highlights and then leave. But then, sites like KHV or tumblr, there's actual interest there, rather than paltry gossip about the lives of people you said two words to three years ago. There's thought and discussion and just plain fun. You have socialization and personal statements (avatars, signatures, etc.), but you get to know the person. You could memorize my entire Facebook profile and not know anything really worth knowing about me; maybe my favorite books and bands, where I went to high school, what I'm majoring in, but that's it. It's base facts. Read my forum posts and you'll know why I love Pride & Prejudice, what my favorite Los Campesinos! songs are, how I felt about the high school experience, why I want to be a teacher. There's something personal there, something real. I feel like Facebook turns us into caricatures of ourselves, a mere shadow of who we actually are. My opinion of Facebook may be based on the fact that I keep it (for the most part) to people I know "in real life." I am not particularly attached to a lot of those people. I am to you guys. ♥
I don't like Facebook . . . like at all. I had a Facebook page for like 5 minutes then shut it off. Now my parents turned it back on and use it for there games or whatever. Facebook is nowhere near as great as this site. Facebook doesn't have that sort of feel to it that says welcome, you're among friends. Not to mention people who add you don't even know you. I checked into my Facebook page once and looked through all the friends, I have maybe all five of my real friends and like a thousands strangers. Now I will say I do have different attitudes at different times. On other forums I may act quite differently than I do here. Of course I sort of just take turns with my attitude here too. For example, in real life (back when I was in high school) I would go to a high school so far back in the sticks it wasn't funny. Nobody shared the same interests as me, not even my best friend. So I adapted an attitude there that I deemed socially acceptable for the place I was in. However, I took a computer class at a nearby Vocational/Career Center. Everyone there shared the same interests as me, and I could openly act as freely as I wanted. It was the one time I actually felt free from the bonds of society. To everyone else we were the computer nerds who made there weird jokes and had fun in crazy ways, but to us we were having a good time. So that's basically how I am all the time. I'll adapt to the situation, to what I think would be deemed socially acceptable at the time. Even online. You guys know that girl from Kokoro Connect . . . you should know the one i'm talking about. That's me lol But yea, that's my difference in social networking . . . that's just me though ^_^
I'm an asshoIe on facebook. I always make smart aleck remarks on people's post's. Here I feel a lot more comfortable, don't know why. I have suffered pretty severe social anxiety since I was around 10 and the way I deal with it is by being, well, an asshoIe. I know here though that I fit in more and I can be myself when talking to people, if I tried to do that on facebook, It'd be completely different.
